Among the many disappointments we encountered this summer – physical separation from loved ones, loss of communal activities – was the opportunity cost of missing out on planned travel.
MotE and I had planned years ago to be off work and available to travel internationally with our children during this window of time, where they are old enough to carry their own luggage yet young enough to enjoy our company.
It was with a heavy heart that we canceled this summer’s ambitious travel plans and went back to the drawing board. What could we create that all of us might look forward to experiencing without jeopardizing our health?
What were we really trying to accomplish with our plans for international travel?
- We wanted to spend time with our kids with no external distractions.
- We wanted to create a shared experience that might serve as a touchstone for our family identity and childhood memories going forward.
- We wanted to show them something new and wonderful outside of their comfort zone.
As we learned more about COVID, we realized that the main route of infection appeared to be aerosolization (coughing) in enclosed spaces, while fomites (contaminated surfaces) were not a significant means of transmission. This opened up the possibility of outdoor activities as safer options, provided we maintained social distancing.
Incorporating public health measures into our planning, we pivoted. I purchased a gently used, well cared for two-person tent on craigslist. We picked up a couple of sleeping pads and a second sleeping bag.
We made multiple reservations for overnight car camping sites at some nearby state parks during times when they were reopening – these were few and far between, but if you only planned to spend one night, there were spots to be found.
We also decided to divide and conquer – some years ago we’d realized that it made sense for me to take “dirtbag dad” weekends with the kids while sparing MotE from outdoor experiences she does not particularly relish. As a result, one kid will go car camping with me while the other gets spoiled at home with MotE. We’ll alternate turns so every kid gets at least a couple of camping nights squeezed in.
Excitement and anticipation has returned to the summer! The kids are looking forward to sleeping in a tent and making s’mores, and are just as enthusiastic about being spoiled by each of their parents without competing with a sibling for attention.
I’m hoping we’ve turned a corner in salvaging our summer – we’ll keep you posted!